SLOW BURN THROUGH HIGHS HOW TO
It’s a big upfront adversary and we’re not entirely sure how to manage it. Boredom has become a real threat to not just old but new relationships. In order to survive (and to ensure consistent warmth), we feel compelled to light multiple fires at once. Doesn’t matter if it was lit yesterday, the Millennial climate isn’t particularly expert at maintaining heat. But my friends and clients – the Janes – are having a hard time keeping newly-lit fires ablaze. Newness usually calls for cold showers, not more kerosene. We all know that when novelty collides with love it can feel like a roaring fire, made of flames so hot they can burn. Pairs of committed individuals who know variety and privacy are distant memories. It targets couples who share children, finances and bathrooms. Rightfully so, most of the information on how to do it is directed at couples that have been together for quite some time – years, maybe decades.
Jane has always said that she “likes a challenge.” She likes possibility, choices and chases. Jane is also bored…and she can’t figure out why. She meets his friends, maybe even finds herself in a chance encounter with a sibling or two. It’s been three-ish months and these two see each other three times a week. She likes all the weekend trips and witty texts. Jane is an amalgamation of many people I know. The thrill of the chase is a prominent part of most new relationships – but what happens when the chase is over? Are we able to sustain our own interest in these moments of steadiness? Relationship and sex expert Ellie Burrows digs a little bit deeper into our innate desire for excitement, the boredom myth – and why what you want and need might be right in front of you.
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